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Man, reading this made me cry.

I remember dropping my middle son off at daycare at 2yrs old and heading to college classes. It broke my heart to leave him in the care of strangers. I cried as I drove away from his daycare, everyday for weeks. Friends and family always told me this is just the way it is...just be tough. Such bullshit. Leaving your child isn’t natural and if it doesn’t bother a woman then idk what kind of mother she is.

Working my way through college with 2 kids, then heading to work after graduation only to realize quality child care is so expensive it takes most of my paycheck so why the hell am I even doing this?!? It doesn’t make sense!!

Eventually I gave up trying to do what society demands of women: to work and raise kids at the same time. I know many women somehow do it, but splitting my focus between work and kids just felt wrong and I sucked at it. I ended up doing a half assed job at work and as a mother/wife bc I was spread too thin.

Now I work from home part time and homeschool my 2 school aged kids. It’s hard but I finally feel like I am a success, if only at being a good mom/wife, but that’s enough for me.

I lost a lot of years following societies rules. But no more. F*** work, my family is more important. Kids will be grown soon and then I can go to work. I am very grateful I have a loving and supportive husband, I know many mothers don’t. I couldn’t be a good mother without his love and support. And I strive to be a good wife to him in return ❤️

Sorry for the long rant lol, but women lacking the support needed to grow families hits close to home. Until women in western countries have some kind of support system that makes having families feasible, birth rates won’t increase.

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Fabius Minarchus's avatar

Hmmm, a thought just popped in my mind reading this: we need to locate more of our high IQ jobs in liveable small towns. The promise of the Internet should be not for telecommuting, but making the commutes small, or even bikable.

Back when I was in high school in a very rural county, there were busses that took people on hour commutes to a government research lab. I could see setting up a high tech office in my old home town to steal some of those knowledge workers from Uncle Sam and let people live close to their roots.

There are liveable rural communities scattered all over the country in a similar situation. And with today's high speed rural Internet, a company could scatter itself to mutiple such nodes, with each having a conference room similar to Doctor Cocteau in "Demolition Man."

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As for those aging boomers: let them provide childcare -- for their own grandchildren.

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